Surrender to Love

The other day I had quite a revelation with my truely admirable friend Adam. I bring you a excerpt of our conversation, which might help those in dire straits for the woman they love, to hopefully find some comfort and illumination in dealing with the inner ill part.

Adam: ..."You are in love with a woman who wants to be with you!

But you have no reason to believe that things will sour, but by dreading it, you are causing you both  pain.
Adam: Recall what the great Denny Crane tells us:

  the best part of love is the surrender

 
Adam: it sounds as though you have not surrendered at all

 
Adam: you need to accept that we cannot know the future

 
me: how so? 

Adam: and that maybe you will get hurt

 me: i see
Adam: but until you give in to that, you will never allow yourself to be fully happy

  Did you ever see "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? the ending was quite brilliant

  Winslet's character looks at Carrey and says:

  "But... if we're together it will all go wrong and we will both get hurt"and Carrey respnds: "...Okay." and smiles

  
Adam: you accept the pain

  because you get the love

  There will never be a relationship in either of our lives without pain--we love too deeply and feel too much but if we surrender, that means we will have the elation as well

 Adam: your pain is only coming from your doubt, not from her

 me: yes, it is. that is so true. it is my ill perception

 



Adam: Think of this:

 me: my over eagerness

 Adam: The best case scenario is, you two will stay together for years and years and years

  which, eventually, when you're a ripe old age, one of you will pass away, so you will lose her and experience pain no matter what  

SO, just like our most prized possessions will one day be broken or lost,

  as the Tao states: they are already gone.

  So rather than fear that moment

  we should celebrate every moment we have BEFORE they are gone

  you are ruining your love and maybe her love because you are afraid of losing it

Instead you should celebrate it daily, not wondering and not caring when it will end

  because after all, tomorrow you and I could both be hit by a bus

  and head off to the balcony time in the afterlife